The Deal

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I was thinking today about the deal I made with my wife at the beginning of the year and how she has definitely kept her side of the bargain.

Colleen and Brian Rutledge make a deal

Let me start by saying that I am not just a horse hubby; I am also a horse daddy. I have two girls who live at home (I also have an older son who lives on his own). The girls are both horse crazy and anyone who follows Colleen’s facebook page knows I like showing them off. Being a horse hubby with children is challenging due to the traveling that is involved in the eventing lifestyle. When Colleen is away at events by herself, I get the responsibility opportunity of caring for the kids by myself. If you plan to be a horse hubby with children, be prepared for this to be your responsibility opportunity also. Now don’t get me wrong; I love my children and would not trade them for anything in the world. They are great kids. Sometimes, though, when the wife is away, and the girls start arguing, I wish Colleen was here to help me out.

So back to the deal I made with her: It is typical for Colleen to make an annual trip down to Aiken to train for six weeks in better weather. But in December of last year, Colleen came to me and said she needed to go down there for three months because the cold was killing her hip (which she broke a few years ago in a rotational fall). Understandably, I wasn’t a happy horse hubby when I heard that she wanted to leave us for that long this year. We had “discussions” and more “discussions” about it and finally I decided to make a deal with her. I said, “here is the deal honey: if you go down there for three months you better come out this year and kick a#% and show me what these three months did for you.” She agreed and said she would do her best. We are now six months into the year and, so far, she has definitely kept her end of the bargain. I am loving it, and she is happier and more relaxed then I have seen her in a long time.

So for all you Horse Husbands, current and future, here is some advice from a long-time Horse Hubby: The only way your wife is going to succeed at this very mentally and physically challenging sport is if you give her 100% of your support. It will be trying and stressful as all get out, but in the long run it will be so worth it to see your wife succeed in something she has worked so hard for.

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